Self-care requires training.
Why? Because most of us were thought that loving ourselves is a form of selfishness. But we can’t thrive unless we learn and appreciate our true value and love our uniqueness, as the creatures of God that we are.
Of course, there’s a balance. There’s a delicate line that divides self-confidence and an inflated ego. How to tell the difference? One is the power that comes from love, the other is a manifestation of fear. Basically, if you love yourself you’ll love and support others too, as equals. If your ego is inflated then you’ll see and think of others as inferiors.
You’ll probably find thousands of self-help books with tips and tricks to practice self-love and boost your confidence. But I don’t want to spam you with the advice you won’t be able to keep track of, so I’ll just give you one training cue.
Don’t say to yourself anything that you wouldn’t say to a loved one.
Beware. If you catch yourself doing this say STOP and reverse the damage.
If you called yourself stupid, then say you’re smart. If you called yourself fat, then say you’re healthy. Even if you don’t believe so.
Train your brain for self-care. You’ll see how all your actions will follow.